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Infertility struggle survivor

Unread postby Momsie » Mon Mar 27, 2017 8:15 am

Hi, it's great to become a part of this community. I hope you'll welcome me here.
I'm an infertility struggle survivor from Norway and it seems I have what to share with you here.
Being a mom of a 4 yo son who is a delight of my life now, I'm infertile and can't have any more children. I had my uterus removed due to medical complications at the delivery of my son. at least for 3 long years, I thought I will never be a mother to more children. It was a despair because we always dreamed of a big family with at least 3 kids.
Time has healed and we started to figure out possible ways of parenting. What we considered seriously was adoption and surrogacy. Since I still have my ovaries, we decided to try surrogacy with our own eggs. This is how it all started :wasntme

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Re: Infertility struggle survivor

Unread postby davidson » Mon Mar 27, 2017 8:23 am

hi, welcome to this forum.
I’m a new member of it as well as you. I know what are you talking about. The infertility is a hard issue for every woman.
We faced it many years ago after my failed attempts of conceiving. It's unbelievable but I forgot what is to be a woman. I felt my misery and helpless, I couldn't accept my disease. My world has crashed and I didn't see other people around me.
It seems like you are positive about starting point of your journey, so I wish you good luck with it

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Re: Infertility struggle survivor

Unread postby ironwoman » Mon Mar 27, 2017 8:39 am

Great that this forum is not completely dead! Was browsing it and found your posting. Quite interesting that you have posted here sharing your problems with us, well with me and lovely Davidson.I am sure we will form a great fellowship together sharing with each other our stories.
I am infertile.
Yay
Applauds.
I know that it is not jokes matter or something but I feel like it’s been enough of depression and struggles I want to be upset no more…. I want to do something.
My diagnosis is that I do not get to use my uterus anymore. I had too many abortions due to health issues and pregnancy complications in my life. Lost too much to continue and now doctors say that I am infertile and I should not only consider surrogacy but also egg donation as a part of the program. For those years I have been recovering from emotional and physical trauma. Now I feel like I am doing better but I cannot say that it is what I consider a normal state of mind.
I feel you and your pain and I wish you never experience anything of this sort again.
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Tell us more though! :)

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Re: Infertility struggle survivor

Unread postby MarlenS » Mon Mar 27, 2017 8:54 am

I’m newbie here too, and I hope for the welcome. Wish all the best for your family and your little son. Guess he’s wonderful. We have the same situation as for local legislation regarding ART, because I’m also from Norway. So… how are you? Have you any journey now?

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Re: Infertility struggle survivor

Unread postby davidson » Mon Mar 27, 2017 9:06 am

ironwoman wrote:Great that this forum is not completely dead! Was browsing it and found your posting. Quite interesting that you have posted here sharing your problems with us, well with me and lovely Davidson.I am sure we will form a great fellowship together sharing with each other our stories.
I am infertile.
Yay
Applauds.
I know that it is not jokes matter or something but I feel like it’s been enough of depression and struggles I want to be upset no more…. I want to do something.
My diagnosis is that I do not get to use my uterus anymore. I had too many abortions due to health issues and pregnancy complications in my life. Lost too much to continue and now doctors say that I am infertile and I should not only consider surrogacy but also egg donation as a part of the program. For those years I have been recovering from emotional and physical trauma. Now I feel like I am doing better but I cannot say that it is what I consider a normal state of mind.
I feel you and your pain and I wish you never experience anything of this sort again.

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Tell us more though! :)

Sorry to hear about your losses. I know what is to be an infertile. When all people around you try to ask about your health condition, always talk about children and curious about your future steps. This is tough. I was overwhelmed with feelings; I didn't want to communicate with others. I was in my own world, where I was alone with my thoughts and inner turmoil. The failed attempts to get pregnant have crashed me but I could overcome this.
As you we thought about surrogacy with donor's egg. I was diagnosed with lots of different diseases, the main was cancer. The doctors have to remove the thyroid. Then I passed through 2 chemo, that has ruined my body and mind. The only was a surrogacy.
haha, this is my story :Star

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Re: Infertility struggle survivor

Unread postby marissa » Mon Mar 27, 2017 9:10 am

Hi, Momsie and welcome! I'm also new to the board and decided to give you support before sharing my own story. I feel for you and I can relate to your situation. infertility is a wound which never heals, but we can still live with it looking for the ways to win it. Your 4 yo sweet child is your permanent support i guess and he must be giving you hope and confidence in everything you do.
So you've already started surrogacy, right? At what stage are you at the moment?

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Re: Infertility struggle survivor

Unread postby Momsie » Mon Mar 27, 2017 9:12 am

Davidson, Oh no, the last thing we should do in such situations is to forget how to be a woman! Please don't tell this. You're not a mom yet, but you're still a woman: attractive, desirable and loved. When you love yourself, you attract fertility and welcome your future baby to choose you as a mother.

I had long 3 years of struggles and blaming myself and things got even worse - for me and the whole family. But later when I understood nothing can be changed, I took situation for granted and loved life as it is. I rehabbed my inner love to myself, and it was a beginning of my new life with a new chance for being happy :inlove :heart :flower

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Re: Infertility struggle survivor

Unread postby davidson » Mon Mar 27, 2017 9:26 am

Momsie wrote:Davidson, Oh no, the last thing we should do in such situations is to forget how to be a woman! Please don't tell this. You're not a mom yet, but you're still a woman: attractive, desirable and loved. When you love yourself, you attract fertility and welcome your future baby to choose you as a mother.

I had long 3 years of struggles and blaming myself and things got even worse - for me and the whole family. But later when I understood nothing can be changed, I took situation for granted and loved life as it is. I rehabbed my inner love to myself, and it was a beginning of my new life with a new chance for being happy :inlove :heart :flower

I can't accept this. My devastation has no bound and it really kills me.
We applied for the egg donation surrogacy and that smashed me even more. I realize that child will have no connection to me, only to my husband. He is so excited about it, he always talks about our future child and our family. But I understand that I still can accept this. I can't accept my husband will be the only true parent. This is so unfair; why should I be in pain with it?

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Re: Infertility struggle survivor

Unread postby Momsie » Mon Mar 27, 2017 9:29 am

MarlenS, thank you for welcomes and good wishes. It’s fancy that you’re also from Norway. We’re from Oslo, and you?
Unfortunately, our local ART legislation is too strict that’s why we started searching for possible options abroad. Surrogacy costs a thing that’s we searching for the most affordable surrogacy destinations.

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Re: Infertility struggle survivor

Unread postby Momsie » Mon Mar 27, 2017 9:43 am

Marissa,
hi! You know, infertility is as painful as we allow it to penetrate our life. Also, it’s definitely not a verdict. Our surrogate is now 18 weeks pregnant with a baby of our flash and blood!

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